As My daughter and I were driving around doing errands one weekend she was oddly very quite in the backseat when I asked her if everything was ok she respond yeah but I was thinking about something and I want to ask you but I am afraid you might not like what I have to ask.
I reassured her that she could ask me anything and that I would listen and that is when laylaboo said " I wanted to know what sex is?
now aside from trying not to crash the car and make a shocked sound or even worse panic and ask why she wanted to know about sex and who told her about it?, I calmly said to her well what do you think sex is?, I could tell she really wanted to give me this great answer but being 8 who really knows what sex is all about? she then said I think sex means when you kiss for a really long time all crazy and then you slap a person bottom.
I tried very hard to keep a straight face and not laugh but also thought to myself where on earth did she come up with that answer?
I calmly said no honey that is not sex.
Can we talk about this at home I have a great book that well make the talk much easier for both of us, Of course as we were finishing errands up I was going through in my head how I was going to have this conversation and not tell her too much for her age and then of course I wanted to remain calm and not seem wired or uptight but honestly I was not ready for my newly 8 yr old to start asking me these questions.
We got home and I got busy with things but my laylaboo is never one to forget much of anything so she said mommy remember we were going to have a talk? So we went into her room I sat nervously on the edge of her bed and thought to myself how to start this conversation and how did my mom have this with me I was much older than 8.
At 8 I was too busy playing with barbies too even wonder about sex, But kids now days are growing up fast and if I didn't have this talk with laylaboo she would go to a friend who would tell her all the wrong information this really scared me.
We both sat uncomfortably and stared at one another , I took a deep breath and began talking I was glad I had found a book at a yard sale awhile back called What's the Big secret? talking to girls and boys about sex written by laurie krasny brown and marc brown.
I told laylaboo it was written by the guy who wrote the Arthur books she loves those books.
we began talking and I showed her the pictures in the book she would stop me and ask questions we both laughed and soon it just felt like second nature to be having this conversation.
after we were done talking laylaboo was a little grossed out about how people have sex she just keep saying over and over you and daddy did that your so gross mommy...O well what can I say to her really so I just keep saying yes honey everyone who has a kid has had sex.
At bedtime laylaboo hugged me tightly and said mommy I am really glad I can ask you stuff and tell you stuff because you don't get mad and you listen to me.
This made me happy because I really hope she always feels like she can talk to me no matter what.
Although I am a little nervous for the next batch of questions and really not looking forward to when she becomes a tween but we will handle that head on when that comes right now I just need to make sure she enjoys being a kid and stays 8 and hope she is not in a hurry to grow up.
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